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815 Orienta Ave. Suite 1030 Altamonte Springs, FL 32701
Walking into the Orange County Courthouse or the Seminole County Civil Courthouse can feel incredibly intimidating. The ceilings are high, the atmosphere is tense, and the stakes—your children, your assets, and your future—could not be higher. It is normal to feel nervous, but you never want your nerves to translate into behavior that frustrates the judge.
Judges are human beings. They have busy dockets and hear difficult stories all day long. While they strive to remain impartial, certain behaviors can test their patience and potentially hurt your credibility. Understanding what ticks them off is the first step toward a favorable outcome.
Here is what you need to avoid keeping the judge on your side, and why having a seasoned legal team behind you makes all the difference.
Judges value efficiency. When you step into a courtroom, the judge expects you (and your representation) to know the facts of the case, have your documents organized, and understand the procedures.
One of the biggest pet peeves for judges is when a party delays the proceedings because they missed a deadline or forgot a document. For example, in Florida, once a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage is served, the other party has a strict timeframe of 20 days to file a written response. Missing this window doesn't just annoy the court; it can lead to a default judgment against you.
If you're scrambling to find financial affidavits or asking for extensions because you didn’t read the instructions, it signals to the judge that you're not taking the process seriously. This is why hiring a competent divorce attorney is so vital. We ensure every "i" is dotted and every deadline is met, so the judge focuses on your arguments, not your disorganization.
Absolutely. You might be surprised by how many people treat a courtroom like their living room. Rolling your eyes while your spouse is speaking, sighing loudly, or interrupting the judge are fast ways to damage your case.
Respect starts with how you present yourself. You should dress as if you're going to a religious service or a nice job interview. You don't need a tuxedo, but showing up in shorts and flip-flops implies disrespect for the court's authority.
It also matters how you treat the court staff. Judges notice if you're rude to the bailiffs or the clerks. If you wouldn't act out at a nice restaurant on Park Avenue in Winter Park, don't do it in court. Maintaining your composure, even when your ex is saying things that upset you, shows the judge that you're reasonable and stable.
Florida is an equitable distribution state. This means the court divides marital assets fairly, though not always equally. To do this, the judge needs a clear, honest picture of your finances.
Judges have zero tolerance for parties who try to hide assets or withhold information during the discovery process. If you "forget" to mention a savings account or a vacation property, and it comes out later (which it almost always does), your credibility is destroyed. Once a judge believes you're a liar, it's very hard to get them to believe you on other issues, like parenting time.
At our family law practice Winter Park, we emphasize the importance of full disclosure. If the idea of airing your financial laundry in a public courtroom sounds like a nightmare, you might consider collaborative law. This process allows you to resolve disputes privately and respectfully, keeping you out of the courtroom entirely.
Nothing angers a family court judge more than parents using children as pawns in their fight. In Florida, the courts use the term "time-sharing" rather than "custody," reflecting the belief that a child usually benefits from spending time with both parents.
Judges hate seeing texts or emails where one parent disparages the other to the child. They also dislike it when parents play games with drop-offs and pick-ups. If you're supposed to exchange the kids at a neutral location, like a public park in Altamonte Springs, be on time and be polite.
If you're constantly trying to restrict the other parent’s time without a valid safety concern, the judge may view you as the problem, not the protector. The court is mandated to look out for the best interests of the child. If you make it clear that your priority is hurting your ex rather than helping your child, you will likely lose the judge's sympathy.
Some litigants enter family court wanting to "win" every single point. They fight over who gets the blender or a specific piece of furniture that costs less to replace than the legal fees used to fight for it.
Judges want to see that you're reasonable. According to industry data, over 90% of divorce cases settle before they ever reach a trial verdict. If you're the party refusing reasonable settlement offers and forcing a trial over minor issues, the judge may see you as an obstructionist.
This doesn't mean you should roll over. It means you should choose your battles wisely. Our team at our family law practice Winter Park helps you identify what is truly worth fighting for—like your time-sharing rights and your retirement assets—so you don't waste time and money on the small stuff.
Family court judges have a difficult job. They have to make decisions that reshape families' lives based on the limited information presented to them in a short amount of time. By being prepared, respectful, honest, and child-focused, you make their job easier and your outcome more likely to be positive.
You do not have to navigate this stressful system alone. Whether you're in Maitland, Orlando, or anywhere in Seminole or Orange County, you need an advocate who understands the local courts and how these judges think.
At our family law practice Winter Park and Altamonte Springs locations, we are dedicated to guiding you through this process with dignity. We help you avoid the pitfalls that judges hate so you can focus on building your new future.
Avoid common courtroom mistakes that frustrate judges. Contact Frank Family Law Practice at (407) 629-2208