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How to heal physically, emotionally and legally after a divorce

Divorce is not the end, but it is important to know how to recover from a divorce. When we know how to overcome divorce, it marks a turning point for the beginning of a new life. After hiring a divorce attorney in Winter Park to guide you through the divorce, it is important that you give yourself a chance at a normal life after.

Healing from a divorce is almost always very painful. That's why it's so important that you avoid getting caught up in pain, bitterness or depression, so you can find a way to get stronger and start a new life. Regardless of when legal divorce is signed, emotional divorce ends when you can talk about your ex-partner, without courage, resentment or desire for revenge.

Your behavior and attitude can help you forward or keep you anchored in hatred and resentment throughout your life. Each person is different and needs a different amount of time to recover physically and emotionally from a divorce. When we do not give ourselves the necessary time and do not learn from what happened, it is very likely that we keep our negative emotions (bitterness, depression, etc.) for many years and these have repercussions in all areas of our lives.

Elements that influence the recovery of divorce

The time we need to recover from a divorce and the quality of that recovery depend on:

  • The reason for the divorce

    It is not the same if the divorce came about because there was boredom on both sides or because they no longer had anything in common and if the divorce happened because one partner physically abused the other or is unfaithful.

  • Who made the decision

    It is different when both parties made the decision by mutual agreement, compared to when one wants the divorce and the other does not. It is also different when the divorce is decided after months or years of lawsuits involving several divorce attorneys in Winter Park.

  • The characteristics of each person

    For a person with good, emotionally strong and independent self-esteem, it is less difficult to heal the wounds of marriage breakdown and the divorce process than for someone with low self-esteem who is very dependent.

  • Personal beliefs

    Some have certain beliefs that determine part of their attitude to life. The person who is very rigid in his thinking and who, for example, believes that "Divorce is a failure and if you fail once, you will fail again," "I have always had very bad luck," etc., will find it harder to recover than someone who has more positive beliefs or more flexible and easy to change.

Recovering after a divorce: What to do?

Discuss what you feel about your ex-partner, your marriage, and yourself. Make a list and write down each one of your feelings, leaving space to note those that arise as you work to recover from divorce.

Your behavior, your thoughts and the comments of the people can help you. When people tell you that you look sad, angry, etc., do not get angry. Hear their opinion, analyze it, see if they have some reason and if you think not, just ignore them. But if there are several people who tell you the same thing, it is very likely true what they say.

  • Work on your self-esteem

    Almost always, the decision maker feels guilty and the other person feels angry or devalued, among other emotions. Work with the emotions you are experiencing and look for covert emotions, that you are denying or justifying with the thought, to avoid feeling bad. Analyze your personal characteristics, lean on your strong areas (we all have them, even though it's hard to see them now) and works on the weak ones. Look for activities or people that help you feel better, not to avoid recovery work, but to make you feel stronger during it.

    Check your personal beliefs, because they can be your biggest obstacle. Divorce does not imply a failure, neither does the mistakes, but if we do not learn from the latter, we will continue to commit them. Review the mistakes you may have made, but do not burden yourself with your ex-partner's mistakes. Remember that nothing is built in a day, but each step brings us closer to the goal.